How To Tell if a Sugar Momma is Real?
What is a sugar momma?
A sugar momma is a woman, typically aged 35+, who wants to find someone financially stable and independent to date. She’s often looking for an instant connection with the man she meets online.
These women are not unlike their male counterpart, the “sugar daddy.” It can be confusing as there are many websites such as Seeking Arrangement that cater specifically to those seeking these arrangements. The site is free for men and women under 30 years old but charges $49 per month thereafter. There are also other sites like Whats Your Price and Sugar daddie that offer similar services. The age range on these sites ranges from 18-65 years of age so it’s easy to see how people might confuse the meaning of a sugar momma.
How do you find out if someone is really offering something?
The easiest way to find out is to ask the person you are speaking with if they are being compensated for their time or companionship. This can be done in many different ways without coming across as accusatory. Some tips include:
· Asking about the other person’s well-being. If you are talking to someone over a messaging app or social media, asking about their job and how they are enjoying it is a good way of seeding the conversation in your favor. This makes it appear as if you really want to know more about them rather than trying to figure out if they are being compensated for their time.
· If the person you are talking with is hesitant about answering that question or gives a vague answer, they may be hiding something (i.e., they might actually be looking for someone who can help them monetarily). While this alone does not prove that the person you are talking with is a “sugar momma,” it may make you question the motive behind their intentions.
· Asking for proof of what they are offering can also give you an idea as to whether or not someone is trying something funny. Again, this cannot be seen as accusatory but rather as concern on your end. If they are not willing to offer proof that what they are saying is true, this should be a red flag.
I was chatting with someone and think I just got scammed!
If you feel as though you have been scammed or tricked in some way, the first thing to do would be to take a break from the situation. This means you should not be continuing to contact the other person and playing along. If they continue to “bug” you about talking with them, block them and report them for spam (if it’s on a messaging app).
Please note that this article is intended as an informational resource only. It is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional advice. If you have concerns or think that you may have an emergency, please contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.
Thank you to my editor Ahmad for his contributions to this article. Ahmad is a well-known blogger in the “dating” niche and has worked with several dating websites, including Meetup . You can connect with Ahmad via Twitter or Facebook.